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I buried a stranger today

Lawless

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  • Feb 11, 2018
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    I have not mentioned this, but before I left for CO I did a job for my rental management company client and it was a monster.

    The elderly tenant had died and his ex wife moved into the home and brought her boyfriend with her. They didn’t pay any rent for 4 months, not answering letters or calls and by the time that the RMC found out what was happening it took time to evict them.

    They had ransacked the house, stuff was literally strewn everywhere. My client tells me that the ex thought he had left a life insurance policy and money in the house…turns out he had neither but his cremation and service were paid for.

    The “family” was given 2 weeks (after the eviction) to clear the house of belongings and keepsakes.

    They didn’t take photo albums, awards the man had won or anything personal he owned it seemed. It was just flung about the house and this man’s entire life was laying in this old home for me to clean up and haul off.

    It took 4 dump trailer loads to get it all. I felt horrible about disposing of his stuff like this but what else could I do?

    I gave a few things to people who could use them, I always try to pay it forward when I can. Most however was taken to the landfill and discarded.

    Then, in the last room on the last load, we found his ashes, in a cardboard box, in a corner of the bedroom closet. My sister was helping me and she gasped when she realized what she had discovered.

    I can’t describe how I felt that of the many different photos of children, nephews, nieces and siblings that no one had taken his remains. My sister and I cried. How can family fling a man’s possessions all over and rifle through his things looking for money but just leave him in a closet?

    I called the RMC and was informed there was no information on the family. I decided that if “family” would not, I would do right by this man.

    Today I brought Mr. Woodard to my retreat home in the Smokies and I buried him beneath one of my apple trees. I cried, I spoke to him and explained that while I was not his family, I cared. I told him that I didn’t know him, or what kind of man he was but that it didn’t matter, I was doing what I knew to be right.

    I hope that one day I will meet Mr Woodard. I hope he likes it here among these mountains and oaks. Each year when the apples grow…I will remember his name.
     
    God bless you sir. Your good deeds will not go unnoticed by fate and other stuff beyond our control.

    Some people out there are real greedy sons-of-bitches. There really are such scumbags out there, even to their own family members. You see a lot of these types at funerals and estate sales. They are not there to mourn the deceased. They are there for easy pickings.
     
    I have had to do the same, only there were "family" in town.

    Every one of the "family" either had their nose in a small pile of shit, their lips on a bottle or pushing a needle into their veins.
     
    Obviously I don’t know the details but it sure sounds like drugs were involved. Addiction does crazy things to people... Did right by the guy. Nicely done!
     
    Sometimes in those things that would cause use to totally lose faith in humanity, something that causes us to restore faith in humanity is sparked instead. Thank you for doing that-
     
    I own a lot of rental property too. I've taken possession of a property before and found someones ashes as well. I kept them in my office for 5 months, waiting for a family member to come and claim them. Nobody came. I ended up throwing his ashes in the pamlico river at my river house. That's what I want done with my ashes when I check out. I hope I have someone there to do it for me. Sad that some dont.
     
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    I've heard countless stories about families turning on each other when a family member dies, all over "who gets what". They become animals and everyone feels they're due their payoffs upon the death of a family member.
     
    Some people out there are real greedy sons-of-bitches. There really are such scumbags out there, even to their own family members. You see a lot of these types at funerals and estate sales. They are not there to mourn the deceased. They are there for easy pickings.

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    A selfless, and caring act. You sir, are a top rate human being. We could all be so lucky.
     
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    Respect.

    It’s good to see some people are still solid.
     
    @Lawless. You sir, are a true gentleman! It's nice to read this, as death seems to bring out the worst in people as I have personally witnessed by relatives shortly after my father's death. It's nice to read what you and your sister did. Fortunately, there are still people like you who value honor!!
     
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    A little more information.

    I found that he died of dementia related issues. He was never late on his rent according to my client.

    His home was full of family photos. Photos of him with what I can only assume was family, dozens of them. I found awards for his work, I found his dog tags, I found so many things that pointed to a good person.

    My mother passed this past February, my sister and I cleaned out her house. It was heart wrenching and we did it with such care. Each time we found some treasure or keepsake we did not know about we were torn apart....over and over. Little notes I had written her. Things I did in school, all the way back to kindergarten. Her adult coloring books she took such painstaking care with. It all was precious in a way I cannot describe.

    To think a man's whole existence would be forgotten and all he owned left to be removed by strangers (not to mention at someone else's expense) simply broke my heart.

    I will not look for them, I don't care about them at all. Mr. Woodard is in my orchard and as far as it can go, part of my family. I can't know what I don't know, but I know I did the right thing.

    Thanks for the kind words, I didn't tell it for that.

    The world seems to be going insane, perhaps it will be actual "good" that saves it.

    "...and the greatest of these is Love"
     
    RIGHT is exactly what you did. That is as solid as one can get!!!!!
    Bartender, get this man a drink! Good, good thing you and your sis did!
     
    My brother was a part of the Honor guard when he was in the Marines. He has several stories of burring Ex Marines with no one there
    Some of whom were highly decorated war vets. Sad to think like you said of ones life being forgot and a life's worth of personal effects being discarded.
    Good on you and your wife for making sure this didn't happen to this man.
     
    He's just gunning for most likes, that's all this is...

    Seriously man, that was pretty sobering and it brought a tear to my eye. Actions like these are what make me proud to call you guys my brothers.

    Unfortunately I've seen these exact practices by families after a death, including my own --more often than not too, and it's always sad. Thank you for doing the right thing.