Hey 101, I want you to try something tomorrow morning. Try turning the light on when you get dressed, From reading your post it sounds to me like you keep putting your wife's panties on instead of your underwear. Come on man, life is too short.
Kind of hard to put on the wife's panties, given all of her things were taken out of the house when she passed. Life is too short, the fact that I am here but my wife is not, proves that out all too well.
It is too short, to short to sit back and expect the world to be at your beck and call. Where would the shooting sports be if we all simply sat around waiting on someone else to do everything for us?
Since I retired and my wife passed I fill my days doing anything that I can related to shooting. A big part of that is working with new shooters of all types, to include a number of new junior shooters. I have been blessed to work with some really great new shooters who listen to every word intently, follow every direction to the tee, and bust their ass doing whatever you ask of them. I have also seen a steady influx of new shooters who will soon be the death of the shooting sports. They know it all you can't teach them anything, they expect everything to be delivered to them on a silver platter, they spend more time and effort trying to get out work than just doing it, and the list goes on.
I could just sit around and bitch about them, or I could try and do something about it, which starts with calling a spade a spade. If it pisses them off, runs them off, then so be it, because the ones that are worth it will ultimately come around.
My apologies once again for the rant, but IMHO, there is nothing wrong with some "tough love" or whatever PC term you want to use. Where are the shooting sports, or this country for that matter, going to end up without it?
"Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day; show him how to catch fish, and you feed him for a lifetime."