Idl9ng for short periods isn't bad, it's when the operator idles all the time because they don't want to consume too much fuel, or think that they don't need the loader speed or power. I would say 1800 and above is fine, and a regen every 12 hours is normal. If you work the engine at PTO speed or up to maximum RPM it will do passive regens and you won't know it's doing it.
The DPF already has an insulating layer to retain heat, and keep heat away from the engine compartment, but too much heat and your engine goes into an emergency shut down until it cools off. If the exhaust gas reaches roughly 650°C it shuts the engine down to prevent damage to the emissions components as well as the engine itself.
Lengthening the time isn't really a thing, and shouldn't be. There are 3 temperature sensors that monitor exhaust temps, and the regen process (percent of completion) is monitored by a differential pressure sensor that measures the pressure drop at the front of the DPF, and the after exhaust goes through it. That sensor also tells the computer when it needs another regen. The DPF is only one part of that muffler. There is also the oxidizing catalyst that the exhaust goes through first.
If your machine performs regens too often like back to back, or is taking too long to complete one, like say more than 30 minutes, something is wrong.