So I stopped in at my local sports bar/grill last night to chat with my friend (32 years old) and enjoy a bowl of chili. I was sitting at the bar, and about 4 seats down from me, this 25ish yr old dude was constantly hurling flirtatious remarks at my friend working the bar. The "so what you doin after you get off? We should do something"..."youre lookin dammmn good." Etc etc. Shes worked there for 11 years. Been married the past 5. Everybody knows shes married and has 2 kids. But yeah, shes really pretty and has a rockin bod. Ive seen many guys flirt with her, of course that will happen at a bar. But last night just totally floored me.
The dude would "close talk" into her ear, what im sure of was sexual remarks. All she would do is giggle, laugh, blush and smile. Never once said..."Um. No. Im married. Quit trying." Nothing along those lines. Just wait. It gets better. He eventually goes BEHIND the bar to fill his own glass. While he was back there, he hip bumps her in the ass. Walks down the bar a few feet, walks back by her and squeezes her ass. I saw it clear as day. She never said a word. All she did was sorta glance over her shoulder after the squeeze. He also fumbled around in her back jeans pocket "to get the bottle opener". I asked her...."whats up with this guy?" when he was busy fumbling around with his beer. Ya know, giving her an out to say something if she was uncomfortable with the situation. Her reply...."Oh, he used to work here." WTF? That is not what I was referring to. I said...."No. All the sexual advances and the ass grab." Her reply..."Oh i just ignore it. Hes always like that." WTF! Shes continues...."I also dont want to get in trouble by the owners if I make the customers mad." I said...."What I saw was sexual harassment." She was just making excuses because she liked it.
I said...."You handled that situation like shit. And I was not impressed. And honestly, I lost a lot of respect for you tonight."
My guess, since he used to work there, hes got what he wanted off her before. Thats why he was so pushy and comfortable with putting his hands on her. Since she didnt say anything to him, she was basically giving him permission to continue. I feel for her husband and 2 adorable little girls. That marriage is doomed.
The dude would "close talk" into her ear, what im sure of was sexual remarks. All she would do is giggle, laugh, blush and smile. Never once said..."Um. No. Im married. Quit trying." Nothing along those lines. Just wait. It gets better. He eventually goes BEHIND the bar to fill his own glass. While he was back there, he hip bumps her in the ass. Walks down the bar a few feet, walks back by her and squeezes her ass. I saw it clear as day. She never said a word. All she did was sorta glance over her shoulder after the squeeze. He also fumbled around in her back jeans pocket "to get the bottle opener". I asked her...."whats up with this guy?" when he was busy fumbling around with his beer. Ya know, giving her an out to say something if she was uncomfortable with the situation. Her reply...."Oh, he used to work here." WTF? That is not what I was referring to. I said...."No. All the sexual advances and the ass grab." Her reply..."Oh i just ignore it. Hes always like that." WTF! Shes continues...."I also dont want to get in trouble by the owners if I make the customers mad." I said...."What I saw was sexual harassment." She was just making excuses because she liked it.
I said...."You handled that situation like shit. And I was not impressed. And honestly, I lost a lot of respect for you tonight."
My guess, since he used to work there, hes got what he wanted off her before. Thats why he was so pushy and comfortable with putting his hands on her. Since she didnt say anything to him, she was basically giving him permission to continue. I feel for her husband and 2 adorable little girls. That marriage is doomed.
