All about the IFs.
If they were "passible", no one would have know.
If they didn't tell anyone, no one would have known.
So which was it? Far too often it's not "I want to be a man" or "I want to be a women", it's "I want attention."
There's the harsh reality of... reality.
Sorry dude, you're 5'4", you're never going to play center for the Lakers.
Sorry dude, you're 135lb, you're never going to play nose tackle for the Cowboys.
Sorry dude, you don't look anything like a women, you're never going to be accepted as a women.
(Nooooo! That one's wrong and a hate crime to even think it!!!)