"Compromise is the essence of diplomacy, and diplomacy is the conerstone of love"- Dr. Henry killinger
Killinger???
If you mean Kissinger... I met him when I was a teenager. I was working as a bellman at a hotel here near Schloss Nitrocellulose when the Center for Strategic and Intl. Studies held its conference here. Bob Dole was there, too.
It was the week when I suddenly became politically aware.
After hours, Kissinger was always down at the bar. Surrounded, not by other conference attendees, but by us plebian bellmen, bartenders, waiters and busboys who listened, entranced, while (in gravelly sotto voice while totally swacked on vodka) regaled us with his tales of opening China and negotiating with Vietnam. At the time, I had no idea how much history this guy was part of...
Also that weekend, I had to drive Sen. Dole to the airport at the end of the conference. He asked me "where do the locals eat breakfast?" I told him where the farmers and locals eat and he said "Take me there for breakfast." We got there and I was planning on waiting in the car. He asked me "What did you have for breakfast, son?" I said "Coffee and toast." He said "That's not breakfast. Come in with me and have breakfast. That's an order."
So we sat and had breakfast. And I saw a master work a room. And part of the mastery was having a 'local' teenager who everyone knew sitting at his table and showing what a 'man of the people' he was.
I had two takeaways... 1. He had no paralysis of his arm like showed off during presidential campaigns. He used two hands like a breakfast Ninja. So I understood political theater from that moment. 2. He understood how to put people at ease... to work a room. To be everyone's friend and to listen. And to ask 'little people' what they were thinking. But while also understanding that he could take that information and use it.
To this day, I revere Kissinger. And Dole. They were swamp creatures. But they taught me a huge amount of 'how' to read and work with people no matter what your station in life.
Leadership. It's not commanding. Or being above people. Or being able to bark orders. It's about understanding folks. And empathizing. And listening.
One of the greatest leadership lessons: Take a boot lace and try and push it. It folds into a FUBAR ball. Now tug on it.. and lead it. And it is a nice, organized straight line that will follow your hand anywhere. That's leadership. Vs. Management. You can't manage people into war.
Sirhr