Oh, wow, bumper stickers. They must have been
real Christians.
Sigh.
Just to clear things up, here is what you are looking for, that is, a woman who wholeheartedly believes these things.
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any
of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, 2 as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. 3 Your adornment must not be
merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; 4 but
let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; 6 just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.
1 Peter 3
Wives,
be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself
being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives
ought to be to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also
does the church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must
see to it that she respects her husband.
Ephesians 5
Look for one who is (a) even aware of passages like this, and (b) believes them with all of her heart, not just paying lip service to them. See how her own mother treats her father and keeps her home. See how she demonstrates her love for Christ in her life.
Does she speak up and ask questions in church?
The women are to keep silent in the churches; for they are not permitted to speak, but are to subject themselves, just as the Law also says. 35 If they desire to learn anything, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is improper for a woman to speak in church. 36 Was it from you that the word of God
first went forth? Or has it come to you only?
37 If anyone thinks he is a prophet or spiritual, let him recognize that the things which I write to you are the Lord’s commandment.
1 Cor 14
I mean, bumper stickers on the car, by all means pick a wife based on that if you want, but if you want a Christian woman, pick a woman who actually believes Christian things, which are found in scripture, not stuck to the back of a car.
Don't be surprised if your wife is a feminist if you marry one who believes feminist things instead of what scripture says, e.g. above. If she thinks marriage is a "partnership," then she is a feminist. A patriarchal model is what is laid out in scripture for marriage. If she does not believe in marriage as a patriarchy, then she does not believe in the biblical model of marriage. Period.
Many of you will recoil from this because American "churches" do not teach these scriptures and haven't for half a century. On the rare occasion that they do, they "explain away" the clear meaning of the words.
Oh, they all have marriage classes to "enrich" your marriage. Do they focus on what scripture says about marriage? LOL, no!
Don't go by what she
says, verbally or on a car window sticker. Go by what she does. Does she do what he says? Find a woman who is Christian and
does what scripture says, and you will be fine and can fulfill your part of what God commands you as a husband and father.
Now why do you call Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say?
Luke 6:46