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Angry Fiancee' - Thoughts and Comments???

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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: W54/XM-388</div><div class="ubbcode-body">

This is just the start, once you are married you'll be lucky to get sex as a reward for a good little boy a couple times a year.

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^^^^^^^^^BINGO!
And there is nothing worse than a woman that uses sex as a weapon and/or a reward.
 
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Dagsta</div><div class="ubbcode-body">bro no offense but if I were you I'd start getting myself in really good shape and shag ass away from this relationship quickly. From someone who has been married 31 yrs!!!! </div></div>

This. If she gets this angry over a kitchen knife.... what will she do when you spend some of the money out of the "joint" account? Or miss an anniversary night?
 
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Female input here:

First, I'm kind of curious - was the original "rule of law" because she is prone to purchase only the highest quality kitchenware, Sonoma, Henckels etc. or does she perhaps have an OCD issue with these items being "dirtied" and ending up back in kitchen? From a practical standpoint, no, its not good to mix things exposed to lead, seriously toxic caustic gun-cleaners etc., with food, but I am sensing an "issue" beyond just items being used for un-intended purpose like issues with dirt/bacteria or cleanliness (OCD). Or could this be a "was mine is mine and what's yours is mine" issue?

Sean has a really good point about respect. How would you feel if she took one of your more expensive items - used exclusively for a gun-related purpose, and then she found a use for it, say to fix her shoe heels. You ASKED her not to do that, she agrees, and then you find she does it again. Your response would be...? If her recent response was not parallel to yours, there is a potential long-term problem in your relationship. One easy-going person and one uptight Type A intense person - may not work.

My personal biggest issue with her response to this, is her refusal to accept an apology, if in fact that's the case (along with acknowledging yes you screwed up, and immediate knife replacement). That should be the end of it. To err is human, to make right and apologize is divine and leads to happy couples. To hold a grudge and incite self-inflicted punishment seems, well, harsh. Has she demonstrated an authoritarian personality? You might want to look up/google the DSM-IV textbook psych. diagnosis of "narcissistic or borderline personality disorder" now, if those seem to fit too well - run like hell out of your commitment. You are not a 5 year old child, and she needs to treat you with respect. Failure to accept an apology - that's not respect either.

Finally, we had a major full-moon this weekend. Some people are more prone to...emotionality or emotional lability during full moon periods. I can honestly say my behavior can be affected by full moons, hormones, and severe pain. Still, I know when I am under the influence of any of these, and if I "act out", make sure that my loved ones know its not them but its me. If she thinks she is without faults, also bad news for long term relationship.
 
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: UKDslayer</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Female input here:

First, I'm kind of curious - was the original "rule of law" because she is prone to purchase only the highest quality kitchenware, Sonoma, Henckels etc. or does she perhaps have an OCD issue with these items being "dirtied" and ending up back in kitchen? From a practical standpoint, no, its not good to mix things exposed to lead, seriously toxic caustic gun-cleaners etc., with food, but I am sensing an "issue" beyond just items being used for un-intended purpose like issues with dirt/bacteria or cleanliness (OCD). Or could this be a "was mine is mine and what's yours is mine" issue?

Sean has a really good point about respect. How would you feel if she took one of your more expensive items - used exclusively for a gun-related purpose, and then she found a use for it, say to fix her shoe heels. You ASKED her not to do that, she agrees, and then you find she does it again. Your response would be...? If her recent response was not parallel to yours, there is a potential long-term problem in your relationship. One easy-going person and one uptight Type A intense person - may not work.

My personal biggest issue with her response to this, is her refusal to accept an apology, if in fact that's the case (along with acknowledging yes you screwed up, and immediate knife replacement). That should be the end of it. To err is human, to make right and apologize is divine and leads to happy couples. To hold a grudge and incite self-inflicted punishment seems, well, harsh. Has she demonstrated an authoritarian personality? You might want to look up/google the DSM-IV textbook psych. diagnosis of "narcissistic or borderline personality disorder" now, if those seem to fit too well - run like hell out of your commitment. You are not a 5 year old child, and she needs to treat you with respect. Failure to accept an apology - that's not respect either.

Finally, we had a major full-moon this weekend. Some people are more prone to...emotionality or emotional lability during full moon periods. I can honestly say my behavior can be affected by full moons, hormones, and severe pain. Still, I know when I am under the influence of any of these, and if I "act out", make sure that my loved ones know its not them but its me. If she thinks she is without faults, also bad news for long term relationship. </div></div>

Welcome back.
 
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: UKDslayer</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Finally, we had a major full-moon this weekend. Some people are more prone to...emotionality or emotional lability during full moon periods. I can honestly say my behavior can be affected by full moons, hormones, and severe pain.</div></div>UKD brings up a good point: If it's PMS, some women are affected more than others and you can choose to simply ride it out and ignore it. However, if on the other hand it's not about the knife and it is in fact related to her fears about you and how much she can trust you, then she might (or might not) have a point. In which case my criticism of her would be limited to how she handled the confrontation.
 
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She treats you like a child. This happens because you must act like one. As has been stated, your relationship is doomed because of this structural flaw. You aren't partners or equals, and she's tired of it already. You will eventually get so miserable you will leave, but usually not before she's fucked your friends and ruined what life you did have. Best case, she bankrupts you and leaves peacefully with the neighbor/guy from her work and you go on to failed marriage #2 because you cannot grasp what really happened. Trust me on this. For a good stretch of my life, I was the guy girls like her cheat with. Finding them was easy. I'm a workaholic and they were killing themselves working as hard as me to support some lazy ass.

Asking for advice from strangers cements you are not ready to be married. To her or anyone. You are here seeking validation for your childish behavior. The pout on the living room floor proves it. Even my dogs don't sleep on the floor...

Grow up. Stop acting like a childish ass. Ruining a knife on purpose is just as dumb as using kitchen stuff on anything other than food. Or as dumb as not being smart enough to clean it and return it to where you got it when done. Pouting is for little girls.

Your girl with two jobs, who doesn't want to go looking for stuff you don't put a way---seems kickass. I can assure you she would not treat most of us the same way as you have been treated. The guy who comes after you, he will be treated like a king.
 
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: BachelorJack</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Trust me on this. For a good stretch of my life, I was the guy girls like her cheat with. Finding them was easy. </div></div>Epic: Arrogant; yet haughty.
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Her's a thought. Its not about the knife.

There are other issues here besides the knife, likely communication and respect related.

The knife was merely the primer that set it all off.
 
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I beg to differ, sir. In order to assess this matter, no picture needed of this woman, or any for that matter, except for your own prurient endeavors. No matter how sexy, good looking, great head, good cook, great sammich maker, super sausage grinder, somebody somewhere somehow is TIRED of the bitch's shit. The OP will, IMO, join this ever expanding group of men in short order. Methinks the shit is much deeper than abusing kitchen utensils. On both sides. For a long time. And inexorably headed to disaster and heartache. Best quit before there is blood! Or not......maybe the OP likes it like that. I believer we are where we are cuz we wanna be or we wouldn't be there.

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: 50calcruiser</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Before I can give any expert advice I require a picture of the female in question. This is a serious matter and must be handled as such. A picture is the only way to accurately assess the situation and give sound, meaningful advice.

Thank you. </div></div>
 
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I can see where she is tired of you ratfucking her kitchen.

At the same time, sounds like there are deeper issues.
 
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As a few have thrown out the Henkels. I have a set and they cost a bunch. I would be pissed if someone use any of them for a screwdriver or cutting some wood. Also a kitchen should be sanitary (within reason) so introducing what may have been on the bottom of a shoe is just not a good way to make a firm stool.
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Dude, replace it and leave her shit alone!

Get a lock for your man cave. My wife asked me to buy a building to set up all my gun stuff in,fine got one. Asked for a key, nope nothing in there I can't get for her or let her in to get. She was snooping, believe it.

I've been married 11 years and used to put up with the bitching and general being pissed off over nothing. I got tired of it. I knew I wasn't being an asshole and provoking it so I told her deal with why she was acting that way or there is the door. I'm still married and she is much more easygoing.

If she is not interested in your hobbies at all, you better rethink getting married.
Additionally I'll be damned if my GF/Wife would suggest I punish myself to make her feel better.

NEVER EVER leave your own bed!!! If she is so mad she can't sleep next to you, she can relocate herself.
 
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WTF were you using a kitchen knife for on your guns?

You should use that knife to cut your balls off cause it sounds like she already has a firm grip on them.
 
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I didn't read the entire thread, so I may be beating a dead horse.

You are acting like a selfish spoiled brat. I'd guess that you are an only child or are several years younger than your siblings. I can assure you that this kitchen utensil issue is not the only problem in the relationship. Consider her feelings instead of trying to avoid punishment and your life with her will be longer and easier. If she went bat shit crazy the first time you borrowed the knife, then I'd tell you to run for the hills. However, she has probably put up with a lot of bullshit in the past. A woman that can put up with your bullshit and still hangs around is usually hard to find. Respect her or you will get all of the range time you want, (which is not necessarily a bad thing in my opinion). By the way, respect doesn't mean do what she says. It means you act in a way that reflects your goals for the relationship. Now that we have that out of the way.... What was she doing out of the kitchen/bedroom/bathroom while you were away?

I speak from experience. I've never been married, nor have I been engaged. However, I've banged many a taken woman and have learned just about every aspect of a failing relationship. Such knowledge yields tactical advantage in the field of banging women without having the extra expense.
 
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As the owner of an 17pc set of Wusthof kitchen knives (about $1k for the set), I would flip my fucking lid if someone used them for non-food related uses. Maybe some might say that is over the top, but I don't buy expensive shit for people to mis-use and abuse. If you can't respect my stuff enough to leave your hands off of it for any use other than it is intended, you obviously do not respect me. It goes hand in hand. Don't respect my stuff, you obviously do not respect me.

I can very easily see her point. It isn't about if it will be replaced or not, it is about respecting her stuff and her wishes. Would you want her to use the barrel of your rifle to beat open a stuck car door, or the slide of your pistol to drive a few nails? Makes no difference if she is willing to replace it or not.

To take this further- she may be thinking; I'm going to marry this guy? He doesn't respect my stuff, and he doesn't even have sense enough to destroy cheap bargin bin junk; he has to destroy expensive stuff- that way it eats more of our money to replace which could have been better used elsewhere.

My take- this has been building up over a period of time and she has finally had enough dealing with it. She wants her future husband to respect her and her possessions, and she wants him to have sense enough to go buy 10 knives from good will for $7 instead of ruining one $50 knife.

Like I said- I'd go ape shit if this were the first and only time; I expect more out of people. Sounds like she has been pretty reasonable about this.



EDIT: I wrote this before reading the replies... sounds like I said a lot of what was already said... and it sounds like a lot of guys think I'm bat shit crazy since I would have went nuts the first time. Whatever- guess I'm crazy. I guess I expect my significant other to be reasonably intelligent with sufficient common sense. I've had more than my fair share of retards I've had to look after thanks to the Army- I don't need it at home.
 
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OMG !! how would you feel if she used your rifle barrel as a crow bar ?

I do most of the cooking in the house as I am formally trained. If anyone used my knives for non food related tasks they would lose fingers. I remember while at Culinary school one student was caught using someone else's knives-- he was sent down the hall and was on kitchen duty for the rest of the night for all 4 kitchens ... and with over 30 students per kitchen that is a serious offense.

Like DP425 my knife set is very expensive around $2500.00 it is also a Wusthof 20 pc set but its the Le Condon Blu edition (school I went to).

she sounds very reasonable... just get a trasher knife and leave the kitchen stuff alone.

To make it up .. go and get her a Shun pairing knife
Shun knife

That will go a long way ... also le creuset also makes some very nice pots -- the kind that you can hand down to your grand kids.

good luck to you
 
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Graham</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Michigan does not recognize common law marriage. </div></div>

It's a good thing, because there's no such thing as common law divorce!
 
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Tell your fiance this - I asked my girlfriend of 6 years what she would do if she were YOU.

she said she'd buy a new knife, not worth losing a relationship over.


So back to turbo - I understand what she's saying, but she went overboard, it's almost like a control issue.

Personally I would not have slept on living room floor, never have and never will - I would have left.

Life is too short for this crap.

It's just material crap people. If you really love someone respect them, and if you screw up replace it.

If they are still mad, replace them.
 
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As above- I asked my wife of 17 years about this, and her solution was as above.
 
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I agree in part. Yes use the right tool for the job and not the butcher knife to carve on gun but at the same time why is it all "leave HER knives alone"? I mean if you go buy a loaf of bread is it her loaf also or does she buy her own, If you cook supper do you have your own set of pans? to me marriage is give and take 50/50! now Im not saying its ok to ruin stuff just for kicks but its kinda scary that a person would get that wound up over an object! Things will get broken its life! Oh and one more thing YOU ARE AN IDIOT IF YOU MARRY HER!!!!
 
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I've been married to my first wife for forty four years. The first part of the marriage was rocky, and fraught with anxiety and anger. but we persevered and both made a few changes. The last two weeks have been much better.
I might even keep her, now.
One question I have is do you live in YOUR house or HER house?
If in yours, tell her to get the hell out. If in hers, get the hell out. Be sure to take everything that is yours on the first trip. Never look back.
My wife subscribes to the "What's mine is mine, and what's yours is mine" concept, but has never acted as your woman did.
She might have brought it to my attention, and asked for it to be replaced, but that's about all.
Never give up your half of the bed. In fact, start taking your half of the bed in the middle. She can sleep on the edge, or she can sleep on the floor.
Never, under any circumstances short of self defense, strike her.
Hitting a woman is just plain unmanly.
I feel that she is totally unreasonable, and you are just too pussified.
Grow a set.
 
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I have been blessed with my Lady whom both shoots AND reloads with me. She also cleans and oils the equipment, too. And at the same time, we cook together in the kitchen. Various Ethnic dishes and whatnot. Our Henckel 4* knives are used properly and efficiently. We both know NOT to put them in the sink, and to only leave them on the counter (before washing) Otherwise, their home is in the knifeblock.

Neither of us are 'lost puppies without the other' and yet we find that most things we do, are done 'together'. There are some folks who're just so dependent on each-other that it seems one does the inhaling, and the other does the exhaling. You don't want that kind of relationship.

But I, and many others, would say that you DO want the type of relationship that my Lady and I have. To share at least 90% of our interests is a fantastic thing. I won't deny I had a couple "learning curves" before meeting her, and they (previous broads) only showed me to appreciate the greatness that I have now.

Which brings me back to that one word I highlighted earlier in this thread: RESPECT.

Respect for yourself,
Respect for her,
Respect for your space,
Respect for her space,
Respect for your items,
Respect for her items,
Respect for quality,
Respect for boundaries,
Respect for your relationship,

These points are made, to show you the beginning of where the problem is. Which I believe the problem starts with YOU. (I said STARTS, not "stays") You didn't respect her boundaries, or her items, or her space, or her integrity. Which implies you don't respect your relationship.

At the same time, she doesn't respect you, or your relationship, or your space, or your integrity. The whole situation described in the Opening Post reeks of immaturity and selfishness on Both Sides. This is almost a half-step away from going onto the Dr. Phil show to complain about you wanting to watch Geraldo while she wants to watch Gerry Springer.

Ya'll have a lot of sorting out to do here. If either of you are beginning to see the root of the problem(s). As so many have said and/or alluded to, as well. I wasn't kidding when I stated the problem is RESPECT. But I got to thinking that if you and she had let this problem get this far, to where you gotta 'invent your own punishment', then chances (probabilities?) are, you're not aware of the depth of the chaos' roots.

You've either a tough row to hoe, or this is another one of those extreme and hilarious "viral-episodes" and we should start calling you Gecko. Gonna be interesting to hear an update.
 
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Brenneman</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I agree in part. Yes use the right tool for the job and not the butcher knife to carve on gun but at the same time why is it all "leave HER knives alone"? I mean if you go buy a loaf of bread is it her loaf also or does she buy her own, If you cook supper do you have your own set of pans? to me marriage is give and take 50/50! now Im not saying its ok to ruin stuff just for kicks but its kinda scary that a person would get that wound up over an object! Things will get broken its life! Oh and one more thing YOU ARE AN IDIOT IF YOU MARRY HER!!!! </div></div>

Fine, fine.

A ten-penny nail, a two-by-four, and the OP's custom 1911.

What's a girl gonna do if he isn't there and there isn't a good claw hammer in the house?

It seems to me, through the responses that I've seen, that a line has clearly been drawn between those with and those without the requisite experience to properly advise the OP.

Break out the crayons.
 
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Run don't walk.......... I persevered and married a similar woman. Only to be royally fucked over by her 10 years later. Now kids involved and fiscally irresponsible to leave. Only cause hardship on kids. Saw what my sisters went through when my old man walked out and would never do that to my own. Look carefully of the advice of the other married men on here. I had all this told to me also and thought just like every other young guy enamored with "house pussy" that "My girl is different". No she isn't. Trust me they are all ruthless and will do WHATEVER it takes to get what they want regardless of consequences. You probably wont listen and marry her anyway. But you will and I repeat WILL regret it. Tried to tell a buddy the same shit and he is in the midst of a nasty divorce with kids involved and will end poorly for him. Half of guns/shit gone, loss of his incredible hunting property, and heartache from not seeing his kids regularly. If she is that pissed over a knife fuck her, it's only the beginning. Millions of fish in the sea dude. You can teach the next one to do that "thing you like" she isn't the only one LOL.
 
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All I can think of is why did you sleep on the floor? Do you not own a couch?

I'm thinking you should have remained calm while she chewed ass. And then when she was done, you calmly tell her to take that knife and go into the kitchen and make you a damned sandwhich.

Just my .02
 
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: CS1983</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Well... two things:

1) Dude... Goodwill, Salvation Army, Ma and Pa Thrift 'r' Us, whatever is local-- knives, tupperware, etc all for pennies on the market dollar in a retail setting. It's not rocket science and it's then yours and for your purposes.

2) Really sit back and examine her behavior as well as yours. Is this truly a woman you wish to be married to? Is this stress foreseeable as a future thing, and are the causes of it a result of misbehavior on your part? Her solution sounded more like a mother dealing with a child than a future wife trying to work out an equitable, sensible solution to the issue. Why didn't she suggest #1? Why are you using kitchen knives for gun work? Why is she in the man cave? Where is the mutual respect?

Stop using Kitchen implements for non-kitchen related stuff. Break your piggy bank, go downtown, and hit a thrift store for tupperware and knives. Show said tupperware and knives to Fiancee. Buy Fiancee a new knife of the same model and brand you ruined. If she begins stabbing you with it, reconsider the marriage. In fact, do that anyway. You both sound immature and it sounds like a mommy/son dynamic takes place. The issue isn't you shooting or messing with guns, it's you not respecting her wishes to not have food-prep tools become "trim this thing on the gun part" tools. Married life is not bachelor life, and any attempt to make it so is asking for trouble.



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Sage advice from a person that just this weekend watched me toss high quality cutlery into a box headed to the DAV
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I'll ignore her methods on this incident for a bit while we examine the content of her feedback, independent of the emotions. Do I think she has a point about space and respect? Yea, this theme has cropped up before in both my great and not so great relationships, and it GOES BOTH WAYS, not just a woman fighting for respect of her and her space.

There is a joke going around the Internet that shows when it comes to the house, a man gets 1/3 of the bed, a slot for a tooth brush, and maybe 1/4 of one of the closets in the house. The rest of the house is hers. That pretty well sums it up, sans the man space, which a woman may try to take over as well.

Case in point, when I lived in Houston I built a 24x32 garage that was 24x20 for cars and 12x24 as my finished shop for motorcycles, bicycles, and shooting. Epoxied floors, painted, lighted, drywalled, nice trim, nice doors, a very nice shop. One day I come home and the (former at this point) lovely and talented has moved into my shop 5 feral cats, including the totally wild momma cat, that were living under our front porch. She then proceeds to continue working obsessively her 12-14 hour days, leaving a mess of stinky wild cats in my shop....

This was a serious space violation, and yes I interpreted it as a lack of respect, a lack of respect that I felt permeated other elements of our relationship.

My advice to you Sir is that if you really want to be with this woman, you take a serious, open-minded, objective look at the underpinnings of her emotional outbreak. In the process of doing that, I suggest you ask her to try to remove some of the emotion from her delivery so that you can really take in the content of the points she is trying to make. In the process of doing this, mirror back to her what she is saying, not arguing or challenging - just let her get it all out, and have her believe that you listened to her and are taking her input respectfully and seriously.

Once armed with that input, you can chew on it for a while on your own and then make your own decision as to what you are gonna do - abide by her requests, slap her around a bit until she sees it your way, kick her ass to the curb, or slip out with your man cave contents while she's off working one of her jobs.
 
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She is understandably & deservedly pissed at you because you didn't respect her enough to leave her shit alone even after you agreed not to.

Shoe on the other foot, you'd be pissed too. Shame on you for being a 1st class douche.

She isn't being reasonable being mad to the point that you're sleeping on the floor (WTF dude?) or to the point that she's administering punishment. Shame on her for being a harpy and shame on you for accepting being treated like that.

You both need to seriously consider if you're mature enough for married life.

Been married for 15 years, and I'll tell you it's a piece of cake compared to when the kids come. That's when the real challenges start. If you're having these kinds of issues now, you are both heading towards years of misery.
 
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PS I do the cooking and have had my girlfriend use my good knife, broke a tip on it.

I bought a new knife, it's not worth worrying about.
Knives are replacable, the right person is not.
 
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ArcticLight</div><div class="ubbcode-body">PS I do the cooking and have had my girlfriend use my good knife, broke a tip on it.

I bought a new knife, it's not worth worrying about.
Knives are replacable, the right person is not.
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You're still under the impression that this is all about a knife.... It's about an aspect of the relationship that hasn't been jiving for a long time. The knife was the excuse she was waiting for to beat him down words.
 
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If you had re-introduced the item to the kitchen, you would have broken your promise, and that would be VERY BAD, because then your word is worthless.

I would be OK with saying you owe the kitchen a replacement knife, then get some good cutlery for the kitchen, and some goodwill stuff for your use.

I think the anger would be justified if:
1. You attempted to re-introduce the item to the kitchen.
2. You don't replace items QUICKLY to the kitchen.

Because of the potential polution from lead, solvents, and other various polutants, I agree with your wife's prohibition of utility use things NOT going back into anything used for food preparation...not even in the area.
 
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Asking for advice on how to deal with women through an on-line forum filled with men whom the majority are likely divorced, single, or it's just a matter of time... Good or bad?

Reading the advice here though is hilarious and sad all at the same time. Do yourself a favor and instead of going somewhere that people are 99% of the time nothing more than an online persona that speak without repercussion, but instead actually seek advice from real people that know both you and your fiancee and actually give a shit about the outcome of your relationship.
 
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I won't get into the relationship counciling like some of the responses, don't know enough about it judge or care. I will however tell you what I took out of the post.

She works two jobs so that she can have nice things. You've failed to respect that multiple times. You were a douche....again. At some point if you're going to be married you need to respect her stuff & she needs to respect yours, end of story. She's probably not thrilled by a simple apology either since I'm guessing you said sorry the first few times and you did it again.

Go to Target, IKEA, wherever. Spend $20 on some plastic bowls, some cheap knives, your own pair of scissors and then stay the hell out of the kitchen.
 
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Well, im "currently" married to a woman that is very similar to the way this woman sounds. 1) The couch SUCKS!! This is no longer an option. 2)STAY THE FUCK OUT OF MY MANCAVE! 3) As has been touched on before, why all of this fuss over a knife? 4) DO NOT MARRY HER!
 
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A couple of things I noticed:

This is turbo's first post in the Bear Pit as far as I can tell - and he has a lot of post history here

The OP seemed written kind of funnily

turbo hasn't been back to check in since OP

I could be wrong, but after I went back and re-read it, any chance turbo's account was hacked by gf looking for some validation and he doesn't know it?

Something seems off here to me. But maybe it's just me.
 
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My wife is awesome! I forwarded this thread to her to read. Now mind you, she has a degree in psychology, another in philosophy & religious thought and she is working on her master's right now. Here is what she has to say:

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: treebasher's Wife</div><div class="ubbcode-body">In response to that idiot, I kind of want to kick him in the balls for being such a pussy! And I kinda want to punch her in the face for being such a C yoU Next Tuesday! Who in the fuck punishes their partner like a child?!? She's and idiot and he is an asshole for not sticking to his word about the kitchen stuff then lying about it. Be honest, stick to your word and have some respect for one another. Sheesh!

I would also be willing to speculate that the knife was missing and she knew it would be in his "mancave". Which means she knew he wouldn't keep his word which means there are other deep seated issues. Oiy! What a mess those two will be...
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Did I mention that she has a mouth on her and she loves to shoot?
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Re: Angry Fiancee' - Thoughts and Comments???

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: CMH</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I could be wrong, but after I went back and re-read it, any chance turbo's account was hacked by gf looking for some validation and he doesn't know it? </div></div>

If she did, I don't think she liked the majority of the answers...

And this by far was the funniest response:

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I've been married to my first wife for forty four years. The first part of the marriage was rocky, and fraught with anxiety and anger. but we persevered and both made a few changes. <span style="font-weight: bold">The last two weeks have been much better.</span></div></div>

That made me bust up laughing. I had to tell the guys at work that one.
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: sdkidaho</div><div class="ubbcode-body">
And this by far was the funniest response:

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I've been married to my first wife for forty four years. The first part of the marriage was rocky, and fraught with anxiety and anger. but we persevered and both made a few changes. <span style="font-weight: bold">The last two weeks have been much better.</span></div></div>

That made me bust up laughing. I had to tell the guys at work that one.
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Yeah, as far as we're concerned here, that is Post Of The Years status, right there.
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Re: Angry Fiancee' - Thoughts and Comments???

Turbo,

You're the only person that has to live with her. I'm not inclined to give any advice in reguards to her behavior.

I will say that growing old can be very, very ugly. Only you can decide if she has the resolve to stick it out and stay in your corner.
 
Re: Angry Fiancee' - Thoughts and Comments???

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Broker</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Asking for advice on how to deal with women through an on-line forum filled with men whom the majority are likely divorced, single, or it's just a matter of time... Good or bad?

Reading the advice here though is hilarious and sad all at the same time. Do yourself a favor and instead of going somewhere that people are 99% of the time nothing more than an online persona that speak without repercussion, but instead actually seek advice from real people that know both you and your <span style="color: #FF0000"><span style="font-weight: bold">finance</span></span> and actually give a shit about the outcome of your relationship.</div></div>


Very Nice!!!
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Re: Angry Fiancee' - Thoughts and Comments???

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Force_Multiplier</div><div class="ubbcode-body">hey now....

I give a shit... </div></div>

Me, too. Pass the T.P., would you?
 
Re: Angry Fiancee' - Thoughts and Comments???

seriously Veer... I really care.. if some "guy" is letting his wife punish him like child, other wives might get ideas...
 
Re: Angry Fiancee' - Thoughts and Comments???

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Force_Multiplier</div><div class="ubbcode-body">seriously Veer... I really care.. if some "guy" is letting his wife punish him like child, other wives might get ideas... </div></div>

Don't poo-poo me FM!
 
Re: Angry Fiancee' - Thoughts and Comments???

If I came home and found my wife using one of my knive's for a 'utility' cutter, I would go ballistic. Yes, she is right, you use a freakin kitchen knife and get oils, grease, w/e into the mtal, you just fucked a good knife up for the cookin stuff. As to cost, a good set of long term knives will be close to $1k(yes, LONG TERM, not that $400 BS that will lose the edge shape after four or five years)
You're a DUDE. Go out and buy your own cutting tools for your bench and keep them there. This thread is beyond ignorant with teh exception of the 'grow some balls'...grow a brain, jeez o pete!
 
Re: Angry Fiancee' - Thoughts and Comments???

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: athhud</div><div class="ubbcode-body"><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Broker</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Asking for advice on how to deal with women through an on-line forum filled with men whom the majority are likely divorced, single, or it's just a matter of time... Good or bad?

Reading the advice here though is hilarious and sad all at the same time. Do yourself a favor and instead of going somewhere that people are 99% of the time nothing more than an online persona that speak without repercussion, but instead actually seek advice from real people that know both you and your <span style="color: #FF0000"><span style="font-weight: bold">finance</span></span> and actually give a shit about the outcome of your relationship.</div></div>


Very Nice!!!
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Freudian slip? Lol...
 
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The issue is not the knife....it is control.
 
Re: Angry Fiancee' - Thoughts and Comments???

<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: BuzzardVomit</div><div class="ubbcode-body">The issue is not the knife....it is control. </div></div>

That's deep...
 
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