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prayers,

Duff

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Jan 29, 2010
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Laramie, Wyoming
My father is currently in the final stages of losing his 5 year long battle with cancer. He was diagnosed with colon cancer back then and eventually after several times relapsing it spread to his lower back bones. At this point his body is slowly shutting down because of the pressure the tumor is exerting on his spine. The doctors, that were once the only ones who would do anything for him including high risk surgeries and experimental treatments, have given up. we know now he only has maybe a few months left and maybe can even hang on for a year or so. im just asking for those of you out there who pray to include him and my family in your prayers. My mother could be living on her own so she will need all the help she can get. My father was a fire captain for ventura city fire department. he served as a firefighter for a combined 35 years. he was a truly great man. an avid outdoorsman a hard worker and a loving father. he worked sometimes up to 3 days straight just to put food on the table for my brother and sister, my mother and me. if i could go back and change the short 18 years that i had with this man i would. for those of you who still have your fathers and mothers, hug them close and appreciate everyday you have with them before you can't. if you pray or not a comment or any support for my family and i will help a lot. my family and i will be following this post and i know anything will help. thanks guys.
 
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Lost my mother 6 months ago to cancer. She was 53. It's a hard, sobering fact of life that some are taken before we or they are ready. I know what your going through, and I'm sorry. The pain is numbing at times, unbearable at others, but it will get better, may not seem that way now, but it will.

Only other piece of advice I want to give is this.... If there was anything you ever wanted to say to him, good or bad, now is the time. Don't wait until the last couple months when things may not be as clear. I'll say a prayer for you and the family each and every time I think of my mother throughout the days ahead.
 
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Caleb, so sorry to hear what you are going through. I understand how painful it is to watch a loved one suffer. If it hasn't already been done, please make sure your family has hospice assistance. I was a hospice care provider myself for a year and we were very carefully screened and trained to assist both the family and the patient. There are so many things that can be done for comfort of the patient as well as the grieving process which as you know has already started.

The Snipershide prayed group works pretty well - I've got you, your father, your mother, and rest of your family in my prayers. God bless.
 
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The thoughts and prayers of my family are with you and yours, brother!! May God give your entire family strength, patience, understanding and courage during this trying time.
 
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He sounds like a great man. This country could sure use more like him!

I have prayed the Holy Spirit, the Great Comforter, be upon you and your family.
 
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Caleb, my most heartfelt prayers and condolences to your mother. Bro , I lost my greatest inspiration, my hunting and shooting bud, my advisor, my FATHER, 3 years ago 12/21/2009. We buried my dad on Christmas Eve. ENJOY EVERY DAY YOU HAVE WITH HIM NOW!!! Don't leave a single thing to haunt you as a "If only I had told him or did this for or with him" Brother I will definitely lift up your dad and your entire family. May God be with you and yours!!
 
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thank you all so much. i really think the prayers have helped. we were at the point we thought he might not make it til christmas but hes still trucking on. im back in wyoming now so im no longer by his side but while i was home while not getting any better the good thing is that it wasnt getting any worse.the support ive seen here is amazing. ive posted almost the exact same thing on other forums and got half the response that i did here. a real testament to the great group we got join here. a special thanks to those that sent PMs too.
 
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All though i don't pray (I am Atheist). I have lost VERY close friends due to cancer and deployments, but my mother was just diagnosed with skin cancer.
Just with the time you have left cherish all that you can and for me I like to realize (this is just my belief but its something I do hold near and dear) that since there is no after life you are lucky to have met this and be related to a great human being, you share passage from one end of your life to the end of his. No other person will have that same path as you did with him. So respect and cherish what have had what you have now.
I am glad that he has made it has far as he has and hope he will continue on as much as possible.
 
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I realized at about 40 that my dad, who was about 65 at the time, sooner or later would take that big step. Some little voice inside of me said "prepare yorself now so when the moment comes you wont have all the grief. It was quite a few years from that time that he had the aorta from the heart to the brain begin to rupture. I was in the IC with him and he was shutting down, in a lot of pain. I told the nurse "Give him the second shot of morphine." She looked at me and understood that I knew what I was saying and gave him the shot. I called mom in and we held his hands as he checked out. It was a powerful time...Im so glad I was ready. So my advice is to BE AWARE that the time will come shortly...today, tomorrow, next week, next month, but shortly, and prepare yurself. You wont regret it.
 
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I lost my dad 1/11/11 and don't wish that time upon anyone. The power of prayer is HUGE! The prayers were for my dad to pass peacefully without any extended suffering due to his condition, he passed that night after we had all gotten a chance to say our goodbyes. I will keep your dad, you, and your family in our prayers.
 
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well guys, things have taken a turn for the worst. im leaving wyoming on sunday back to california to see my dad one last time. thank you all for your support. the thoughts and prayers have helped me along these rough times. couldnt ask to be a part of a better group of guys. i havent met a single one of you in person but you all still have taken time out of your day to help out.