TLDR: For what you're doing I wouldn't waste your time, money, effort, etc.. lapping lugs.
1. If both lugs make contact (Don't care if it's 10% on one and 40% on the other) understand that lapping the lugs is an exercise in placebo.
2. If you lap the lugs so much that it affects headspace to an unsafe extent, you need to get your OCD meds checked.
As far as blueprinting goes, of the dozens of actions that I've blueprinted, I don't remember any of them where the bolt lugs didn't clean up in the same pass, and only 1 where the bolt face was cut off square. It makes sense because they're turned on a lathe to begin with.
As far as actions, it's a very rare thing for the lugs to be out of square with each other to the point that they truly NEED to be fixed. From a physics stand point as long as both lugs are making contact, the level of elastic deformation that's going to happen during firing is in the .000xxx range, and isn't going to measurably affect precision on target. If you have any test data that shows otherwise I'm all ears.
I've purposely misaligned barrels in the action to look for degredation in precision and haven't found it. In the future I may try some larger sample sizes (I've done 20 round groups so far) in the 50+ range to find the subtle differences in the average, but my gut thought is it doesn't make a difference. Accuracy is in bullets and barrels. Good quality barrels with a decent chamber job get you 95% there, the last couple tenths are in the bullet and load.