Re: COAL too long
It appears that Remingtons have notoriously long throats and your issue is not unique. When I was shooting a stock Remington, I just loaded to mag length and didn't worry about, since the rifle was shooting really well.
If you feel that you just have to get closer to the lands, a solution that has already been mentioned is going with a magazine system that allows longer bullets. This will allow you to seat longer, but I feel that it just treats the symptom and not the problem. You really don't want to wind up with bullets that are barely seated because you wanted to get closer to the lands. The best way to address this issue would be to have your gunsmith set the barrel back and recut the chamber with a reamer that won't cut the throat so deep.
When I had my barrel done, I had was shooting 168SMKs, so my smith cut my chamber for 168s. Now, when I load 168s to 2.8", they .010 off of the lands.