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kbrady

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It seems like every week there is a post about a family member being sick, or hurt.....and nobody is immune.

Recently, the doctors found a tumor in my dad's colon. After a battery of pokes and prods they came to the conclusion that it was precancerous. They scheduled surgery to remove a very small portion of colon and the tumor and everybody seemed to be really optimistic about the ordeal. Standard procedure called for some scans a couple of days before surgery....mainly areas around the colon to make sure there would be no surprises. Scans came back showing spots on his liver, lesion was the term they used.

Day after the scans came back, they did a liver biopsy and then scheduled an appointment with an oncologist to give us the results, which was today. Nothing good came out of that visit. Was told it was colon cancer that had spread and attached itself to his liver, making the spots or lesions. There were lesions on both lobes of his liver, one side fairly small and the other quite a bit bigger.

The doctors were surprised at some scans in that area in February of this year, which revealed absolutely no spots or abnormalities on his liver. Apparently when it decided to spread, it didn't waste any time. The preliminary results were stage 4 cancer. I assume that is directly related to the short amount of time from having a clean liver to one with lesions. They took surgery off the table, of course, until they can get chemo going to try to stave off any further spreading and knock out some of the lesions. IF the chemo does its job, it is a matter of getting rid of as much cancer as they can and then removing the rest via surgery. That is the goal, if one is to set a goal in this situation.

Very few bright spots during the visit. The most important fact the doctor said was this form of cancer, colon cancer, reacts very well in a little over 90% of patients. That is a pretty damn big number. She also said there were other forms of chemo if his body didn't respond well to the first kind. At least they have a plan.

Anyway, I guess what I want is to hear from anybody with experience with a similar situation......good or bad. I want to know what I can expect with this.

I really don't know how I feel about the situation yet, have that numbness all over. My parents took it pretty good, and I held it together until I got back to my truck and drove back to school. I apologize for the long story, was a shitty attempt to shorten it up I admit. Just needed an outlet for it all.

Thanks

Kelly
 
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KBrady, I know how you feel, I had the same pit in my gut when they told us my mom had breast cancer. Keep as positive outlook as you can. After chemo and lumpectomy she's clean for almost 3 yrs now.

Will keep you and your family in our prayers!!
 
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Kelly,
very sorry to hear about your Dad. No real experience with those types of cancer. My Mom survived two bouts of breast cancer and one of ovarian starting back in the early sixties the first time. I'm trying to say, keep having hope and faith. I'll say a prayer and hope all turns out well.

Mike
 
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At some point in everyones lives things like this come into play. My 1yo son was just recently diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, and although nothing like cancer my wife and I were devistated.

I have come to the conclusion that you have to live life to the fullest everyday with the ones you love. I wish you and your family the best of luck. Chad
 
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Hi,
I was diagnosed with Advance Colon Cancer after my first colonoscopy. I was 47 at the time (just last December). Turned out to be Stage 3 which means it was in my Lymph Nodes but had not moved into my Liver or Lungs yet. My surgery was on December 14th and they removed about 17" of my Sigmoid Colon. By December 21st I was on a plane to Pittsburgh to spend Christmas with my Wife's Family. In January I was supposed to start 6 Months of Chemo. I had such a bad reaction to the chemo that I stopped it after just two treatments. Now I'm just living in God's Graces, staying positive and KNOWING that I'm through with this awful experience. Living life exactly the same as I did before the whole sorted mess.
The MOST IMPORTANT thing is Faith in our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ... and a positive attitude. I am at peace with the knowledge that when it's my time to go home to Christ, it will be as He has known all along. Not one second sooner or later. I may live many more happy years, be taken by Cancer at any time or for that matter, be hit by a truck while crossing the street. I really don't have any reason to panic over when I'm going to die. It's inevitable.

I say all this in the hope that it may calm your heart a little. I know, it's devastating news but by no means is it a Death Sentence! Things will be different for your Dad for a while but if I can get through this, anyone can! Just keep an open mind and a positive attitude and I'll be Praying for you and your family...

John
 
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Kbrady,

My dearest sympathies. My father went/is going through colon cancer treatment right now. Long story short, he is missing close to 40" of colon, if I remember right, but has been clean since December 09 6mths after the second surgery. I was the one that had to tell him it was cancer, when he came back from being under the knife after the first surgery in May 08, it was an emergency surgery, telling him that was the single toughest thing I have ever had to do.

Good luck with your father, only advice I can give, is be there for him every second that you can, and to give him space when he needs it. Take nothing for granted and ALWAYS get a second opinion, do A LOT of research and talk to as many people as you can. My father didnt get the whole truth the first time, and it caused him to go back under the knife a second, it was a mistake we made and would hate to see anyone else make.

As oneshot said, postivity is the most important thing you and your family can have. Good luck with this, and if their is anything I can do, pm me. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

Deeth
 
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Everybody, thank you for the kind, positive words.....I needed that. I'm not letting my guard down but I'm also not going to view this as the end. I know he's tougher than woodpecker lips and he's not going to give up.

Just a few minutes ago I had to tell my 7 yr old daughter that her papa was sick and had to start chemo soon. Tough little bird she is, teared up and then said she knew he was tougher than any old cancer. She's had to go through a lot at a young age, 3 funerals and her grandmother(my ex-wife's mother) battling cancer currently. I think she may be tougher than us all. Whether she knows it or not, she will be instrumental in the fight.

Again, thank you all for the thoughts and positive words.

Kelly
 
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Damn, Thats some bad news, however its not a death wish, your dad can beat this and will. The best thing you can do is be there for him and your mom, show your support and help keep his spirits, motivation and determination up when it gets tough.

I wish you and your family the best thru this difficult time.
 
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Cancer sucks!

Lost my mom 6 years ago to breast cancer-she was 56, my stepdad the year before from a brain tumor-he was in his 60's. She had been diagnosed right before they were to be married, she gave him the opportunity to back out. He went into it accepting the belief of "in sickness and in health". His tumor showed up afterwards.
Beat testicular cancer 5 years ago myself at age 35.

I know this, No matter what treatment is persued know that there is a difference between "quality" and "quantity" of life. Be prepared for the worst, hope and pray for the best, accept what is done. The decisions made will be the best ones that are available at the time. Maintain a positive attitude. Take care of your dad and anyone else that needs it- this includes yourself. Remain agile in body and mind, look at alternatives, make sure he has doctors that will listen. Remember they work for you. Remind them of it if needed.

When mom was in Hospice care she told me "Dying is easy- living is the hard part."

My grandfather was a WWII vet, one thing he understood better than I could have ever imagined was that "We all check in to check out, what you do during your stay is what makes a difference."

May you and yours recieve the most benevolent outcome.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
-Chris
 
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I had Lymphoma in '93 (Stage I Mixed Cell) and again in '97 (Stage III Hodgkins). Two completely unralated bouts with two completely different cancers. Ain't that a kick in the teeth, eh? I was only really well briefly in '96, and then not again until around 2000.

It was not easy is all I will say.

But it can be done, and they have gotten better at doing it without taking so big a toll anymore. The patient's mindset, attitude, courage, and tenacity are all vital aspects of success. The immediate circle of committed people can all provide the very real physical and emotional support that is absolutely necessary.

Maybe it's just a friend who provides a ride and cheer back from a chemo session. Maybe it's a fellow patient who can understand like no other, and with whom one can bond and share their journey.

Never fear. Fear plays no useful role in this process.

There are three ways to kill cancer. Burn it, cut it, and/or poison it. They have prettier names for it, but that's what's actually happening. The goal is do it all hard enough to just barely avoid killing the patient in the process. No..., really. So when I tell you it's not easy, I mean it in the most realistic sense. That's the way it's supposed to be.

The way cancer kills is by making folks too sick to complete their treatment, so every minscule erg of effort that results in a healthier patient during the treatment interim is essential. Once the treatment ceases, it still gets a bit worse for everyone before it gets better. Expect it. It's really a good, if disturbing, sign.

Between Cancer Centers of America and the VA, I am still going pretty strong in my 14th year of remission. Remember that word, 'remission'. No one is ever cured of cancer. They call it 'remission'.

Getting to know one's Creator and His advocates better here on Earth is a very useful strategy. If nothing else, they make a career of helping. All help is useful. Nobody will ever manage this situation on their own.

If cancer comes from our modern world, so too does its remedies. Cancer is the line we cross and turn all our acceptance processes on to 'full'. Anything less is unwise, and unquestionably borderline suicidal. Nobody will ever hear anything more real in their entire lives than a cancer diagnosis.

Greg
 
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<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Greg Langelius *</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I had Lymphoma in '93 (Stage I Mixed Cell) and again in '97 (Stage III Hodgkins). Two completely unralated bouts with two completely different cancers. Ain't that a kick in the teeth, eh? I was only really well briefly in '96, and then not again until around 2000.

It was not easy is all I will say.

But it can be done, and they have gotten better at doing it without taking so big a toll anymore. The patient's mindset, attitude, courage, and tenacity are all vital aspects of success. The immediate circle of committed people can all provide the very real physical and emotional support that is absolutely necessary.

Maybe it's just a friend who provides a ride and cheer back from a chemo session. Maybe it's a fellow patient who can understand like no other, and with whom one can bond and share their journey.

Never fear. Fear plays no useful role in this process.

There are three ways to kill cancer. Burn it, cut it, and/or poison it. They have prettier names for it, but that's what's actually happening. The goal is do it all hard enough to just barely avoid killing the patient in the process. No..., really. So when I tell you it's not easy, I mean it in the most realistic sense. That's the way it's supposed to be.

The way cancer kills is by making folks too sick to complete their treatment, so every minscule erg of effort that results in a healthier patient during the treatment interim is essential. Once the treatment ceases, it still gets a bit worse for everyone before it gets better. Expect it. It's really a good, if disturbing, sign.

Between Cancer Centers of America and the VA, I am still going pretty strong in my 14th year of remission. Remember that word, 'remission'. No one is ever cured of cancer. They call it 'remission'.

Getting to know one's Creator and His advocates better here on Earth is a very useful strategy. If nothing else, they make a career of helping. All help is useful. Nobody will ever manage this situation on their own.

If cancer comes from our modern world, so too does its remedies. Cancer is the line we cross and turn all our acceptance processes on to 'full'. Anything less is unwise, and unquestionably borderline suicidal. Nobody will ever hear anything more real in their entire lives than a cancer diagnosis.

Greg</div></div> truth and wisdom comes from experience and an outlook like Greg's. I always enjoy reading his writing as it is true and to the point. My hats off to you my friend. You have been through a lot and have lots to teach us.

The OP can take solace in your words of encouragement. My prayers are out for you all. My Father-in-Law has twice had cancer, prostate and throat. Two totally unrelated cancers but both required much treatment. He is still doing well ten years after and has recently had a knee replacement - tough old dude I tell you. So, life moves on as will his life. Just keep praying and keep him in good spirits.
 
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I was diagnosed with a form of Non Hodgkin's Lymphoma last September. My chemo ended the first of April.
I just got my first post-chemo PET scan and the results show that I am in remission.
My prayers are with you and your family. I know from first hand experience that cancer is often harder on family than patient. But, as difficult as it may be, it is most important that all of you stay positive and upbeat.
The medical profession does wonders with cancer now.
 
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Just an update: Pops goes in Monday to set up an appointment to get his port put in and get the chemo treatment ordered. At least he can take the treatment in the comfort of his own home. Should get everything going next week.

Again, thanks for the support......it really does help me deal with this situation.

Kelly
 
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Well, port was put in last week and Tuesday was his first chemo treatment. I asked him how he felt Thursday, because the chemo takes 2 days to finish, and he said Great! So far so good. Going to relax and go back in 2 weeks for another treatment. Only noticeable side effect was a case of the hiccups, which went away.....so even though it is his first treatment, it went well!

Kelly
 
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Thoughts and Prayers from down south man. Cancer is a real SOB and everytime I think of what it did to my Mom, I swear it will be one of my personal research projects when I graduate. When I become a Med Tech Science geek, I will do my best tio insure the destruction of cancer through whatever research I can do. I just know there is a genetic way to kill it with NK, and cT cells, adn finding out how is going to be one of my priorities