Re: A Public Apology to ballistic1
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: ranger1183</div><div class="ubbcode-body">I owe ballistic1 a very sincere apology as I acted in a very unprofessional, rude and obnoxious manner.
More precisely, <span style="color: #FF0000"><span style="font-weight: bold">I did not take the time or effort to carefully read, interpret correctly or react to a PM he sent.</span></span> There is NO excuse for what I have done.
<span style="font-weight: bold">I over reacted, spewed frustration and anger for which he, nor anyone else deserves, and in short, acted like a total and complete dick head with a brain smaller than a pea.</span>
What I did is a disservice to the Sniper's Hide, this community, the SHWW group and most of all to Ballistic1.
I am very sorry and will do whatever you feel is justified in making this matter good for you.
Scott </div></div>
With regards to ranger1183:
WOW... What started as a small misinterpretation of a PM has quickly morphed into nuclear mushroom cloud here.
The skinny: There was a transaction between ranger1183 and myself(ballistic1). He sold me a used item. I paid fast. He shipped fast. He presented/described item in just fashion. I understood condition on said item.
Received item Monday, it arrived on time, no shipping damage, excellent package job. I pulled item, reviewed the "wear and tear" on this item and decided that the blemishes were more ominous than I expected.
At this point, I decided to PM ranger about my finding that the blemishes were more than I realized and I had decided against keeping the item. I asked him for some possible back-up buyers he may have had from the OP.
Here is where the problem originates.
<span style="font-weight: bold">I (ballistic1) failed to write my PM in a manner wherein he properly understood what I meant to convey.</span>
In a PM or any written text, you can state your case or opinion, but the recipient can completely miss your tone or intent, and miss the gist of what you wanted to say. In an actual conversation, if you say something, and the other party begins to take it in the wrong manner, one can correct the misunderstanding right there on the spot. In live speech, you can control and interject as necessary to prevent misgivings. In written dialogue, one is not afforded that luxery.
Case in point:
I failed to properly word my PM so he would understand what I was after. I believe he thought I was inferring that he had done me wrong in the transaction, and he missed my intent. It flatlined from there.
ranger1183 and I(ballistic1) have a good standing past history with each and with many others here on the HIDE. We have dealt with each other before. We were friends then. We are friends now. I will not allow a simple misunderstanding derail my friendship/ and future dealings with him. It is a learning experience for me, and I'm sure some of you fellow members reading this may have been through a similar situation. A situation where the integrity of a transaction degrades rapidly over a complete misunderstanding.
I admit, I was taken aback by his reaction. I now realize his defensive stance was reached from misunderstanding my PM.
I also realize this: I had a high regard for ranger1183 before we entered the transaction. I caught him offguard. He naturally caught me offguard completely as well.
Just when I thought the firm ground I stood on was turning to quicksand around me, he does a 180 and produces this Post and a PM to go with it. A simple clarifying PM would have been sufficient, but he went all out to rectify this with me. My hat is off to him.
It takes a man with <span style="color: red">BIG BALLS</span> to step up and rectify any issue, and to do it publicly like this is a noble effort.
It is guys like ranger1183, who maitain their integrity and grit while enduring salted wounds is what makes the brotherhood of places like SNIPER'S HIDE possible.
It is the pulse of life of this place, having members who hold the line, and respect one another.
I have great appreciation and respect for ranger1183. I came to the HIDE to learn from it's senior members, from those who have great things to offer to me .
Today I learned from ranger1183 how a GOOD TO GO member conducts himself.
