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Asking advice in the Pit. Lord help me

I haven’t wanted to come in here with this but here it goes…

About 18 months ago my wife was hit with allegations of “inappropriate relationship with a minor.” Here’s the full context. She was a teacher and tutoring several students, one of whom was a 16 yo boy. He did what most 16 yo boys do and lie-bragged to his friends about banging his tutor. I was 16 once and had the sense to know that my buddies who said that were full of shit. Says a lot about today’s youth that one of his buddies took that rumor to the administration and she was suspended (with pay) and a full blown investigation ensued. However, she was let go at the end of her contract. I’m from a small town but my wife is not from here. I knew the detectives on the case and our lawyer was a longtime family friend. Long to short: she was not charged and in fact was cleared of any wrongdoing. Not just a case of not enough evidence to make a case. The kid even admitted to lying about it etc.

Well, that didn’t stop the rumor mill and for the last year and a half she’s been taunted by these twats and it’s driving her down a dark hole. She has only recently told me about all of the “harassment” that she’s endured. I knew about some but not all of it. I put harassment in quotes because I’m not sure what actually constitutes harassment and what’s just petty bullshit. There are some things she needs to just toughen up over. Like a middle finger driving by, but things like brake checking her with my kids in the car and creeping by our house piss me the fuck off. We’ve been in touch with the detective but nothing has been done. No follow ups. So my ask is, what can I do legally to make an example out of some of these fucks so that the intimidation stops?

Fire away…
My wife worked in education for 20+ years. Her #1 rule was never find yourself alone with a teenage male. But, it sounds like your wife has a case to file a lawsuit against the district for wrongful termination. (Yes, school districts can be successfully sued. Been there, done that.) Too bad you don't have some muscled-up high school football players in your family.
 
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My wife worked in education for 20+ years. Her #1 rule was never find yourself alone with a teenage male. But, it sounds like your wife has a case to file a lawsuit against the district for wrongful termination. (Yes, school districts can be successfully sued. Been there, done that.) Too bad you don't have some muscled-up high school football players in your family.

We were ready to sue the school but the attorney told us it was a waste of money that would likely leave us looking in worse shape than we were in. Probably should have gone on with it. It’s not too late I suppose…not sure the statute of limitations on such stuff.

Oh, and I see no reason to speak of violence toward anyone on a public forum. Private conversation anyone?
 
This thread is both better and worse than day time trash TV.
 
Maybe I should have led with this, but some of what I’m about to say I’m just learning tonight…it’s a really bizarre situation. The boy running his mouth in the first place put his tail between his legs when the cops showed up at his door after the shit show started. He isn’t the one who told school officials. He just told his buddies. He was falling all over himself to apologize to me over what he’s started. He was hazed mercilessly at school. So was the girl who did the actual accusing. While doing some more digging, it’s speculated that she had the hots for the boy, but he shut her down so she took a rumor that she knew wasn’t true to a whole nother level. Well, perhaps during all that hazing, she decided to try to turn the tables and I’m learning now that she became some sort of ring leader for these group chats that went around to MULTIPLE schools perpetuating the lies. So she’s first on the list to be subpoenaed for her phone and social media records.

TL;DR the boy just about pissed his pants and was real quick to change his story. Both he and my wife took some sort of deception detection test and both were deemed to be telling the whole truth. He’s not the one doing the stalker boyfriend shit. Hell he’s not even around here anymore. I don’t know where he is.
Yeah this sounds like a load if bullshit. I’m out
 
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I’ll be honest with you…courts don’t like to punish juveniles even if there is a NC law for criminal defamation. Additionally, the juvenile doesn’t have any assets worth pursuing on the civil side because he’s adopted.

1) sue the family regardless of your ties being they are ultimately responsible caretakers for the juvenile.

2) have your attorney push for charges of defamation against the juvenile (if that’s a law in NC). You could even appear as being reasonable by supplemental punishment such as community service, public apology, etc in lieu of juvenile detention.

3) why live/work in a area where your wife is so easily dismissed by her employer and not even offered a job back after being cleared? Sounds like a bad position regardless.

I’d say those are your options.
 
Yeah this sounds like a load if bullshit. I’m out

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For anyone else thinking that some or all of this doesn’t add up: we tried to sue the school. Lawyers told us basically to forget about that. We tried to go after the female who made the claims to the admins. That was a dead end because it was considered “good faith.” Now we are going to pursue the same female because 18 months later, she’s running my wife down despite having been exonerated.
 
I’ll be honest with you…courts don’t like to punish juveniles even if there is a NC law for criminal defamation. Additionally, the juvenile doesn’t have any assets worth pursuing on the civil side because he’s adopted.

1) sue the family regardless of your ties being they are ultimately responsible caretakers for the juvenile.

2) have your attorney push for charges of defamation against the juvenile (if that’s a law in NC). You could even appear as being reasonable by supplemental punishment such as community service, public apology, etc in lieu of juvenile detention.

3) why live/work in a area where your wife is so easily dismissed by her employer and not even offered a job back after being cleared? Sounds like a bad position regardless.

I’d say those are your options.

We aren’t after money. It’s not about money. I only want said juveniles to be scared into stopping the nonsense. Like someone much earlier said, let the process be the punishment. I agree with your argument for alternative punishments. Public embarrassment is punishment enough for a teenager.
 
Maybe I should have led with this, but some of what I’m about to say I’m just learning tonight…

We were ready to sue the school but the attorney

It’s not too late I suppose…not sure the statute of limitations on such stuff.
Things don't add up.
Just finding out tonight? And the statute of limitations may be up?
So years later and you had a little bird tell you the details of a high school soap opera between teens?
A teenager accused your wife. He was was given some kind of lie detector test and found to be a fraud. But people/kids still believe this and are harassing your wife. Kids are fucking cruel. If found out he would have been the center of all jokes forever and not a kid in the school wouldn't know that he lied.
So things are not adding up.
And the bullshit meter is pegged towards water leak/fiberglass
 
Did we even get any pics yet to determine if guilty or not......this thread sucks

Doc
 
Things don't add up.
Just finding out tonight? And the statute of limitations may be up?
So years later and you had a little bird tell you the details of a high school soap opera between teens?
A teenager accused your wife. He was was given some kind of lie detector test and found to be a fraud. But people/kids still believe this and are harassing your wife. Kids are fucking cruel. If found out he would have been the center of all jokes forever and not a kid in the school wouldn't know that he lied.
So things are not adding up.
And the bullshit meter is pegged towards water leak/fiberglass

Hey man, I get it. My wife was silently dealing with all the drama trying to shoulder it herself. So yes, a lot of the information I’m giving is hot off the press. This is a combo of my wife telling me more and getting my feelers out into the neighborhood. I’ve been saying all along that I was pretty well oblivious to most of this until very recently. I’m not going to give up sensitive details. But hey, I agree, it doesn’t add up. I don’t have all the puzzle pieces. But think what you want…I thought you checked out of this thread a long time ago
 
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Not quite as good as the teacher that does amateur porn thread, but we’re getting close. Possibility there is some sort of connection?
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Dot3, you sound like a righteous man. First I gotta ask, is a move possible? A clean start might be worth considering.

If not install the best cameras you can afford around your property and in your vehicles. Provide both police and your attorney with all relevant footage. Pick one of the harassers and have your attorney bring suit. Depose him. Something about answering questions under oath while being video taped is real sobering for most folks.
 
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Dot3, you sound like a righteous man. First I gotta ask, is a move possible? A clean start might be worth considering.

If not install the best cameras you can afford around your property and in your vehicles. Provide both police and your attorney with all relevant footage. Pick one of the harassers and have your attorney bring suit. Depose him. Something about answering questions under oath while being video taped is real sobering for most folks.

We have things going on. That’s all I’ll say for now 🤐
 
Its really hard to go after kids under 18 legally. If a parent is pushing the libel, that might be another story. You need to go after the school for wrongful termination of contract - they will say its unrelated but your team needs to insist it was (unless wife did something else to get fired). Even if the suit fails, you at least will be able to re-hash the exculpatory evidence publically. Make sure it makes local papers. Teachers union should have a legal fund.
 
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Problem with moving is everything is on the internet now and all those rumors may or will follow her.
 
Every body has some secrets that they do not want getting out.
Find out what secrets that her tormenters have and make them very public.
If you put enough them into the public eye than people are going to think twice about going after her.
 
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