What you actually need here to answer the question that's underlying the post (that is, "is my chamber cut too short") is a Go gauge. That would address everything up to the shoulder. If the bolt closes on a Go gauge, then it's just a question of the throat length, basically - and that determines things like how deep the bullet should be seated, etc.
If you have a correct chamber, but it's throated a little short, that could explain your factory ammo situation - basically, you could be seating those rounds into the lands.
Brand new Lapua brass is relatively short. Does the bolt close on a new case without resistance? You'll feel it, if you're moving the shoulder by chambering the case.