First of all I understand my comitment and the oaths I have taken and sacrafices that I have agreed to take but I struggle to understand this situation. Sorry this is long and typed fast because I am ranting. I'll re-read and correct it later if it is messed up.
My grandmother has become very ill and she has a DNR order. The doctor said in the red cross message that this may be the last time to see her and that it will be a week or two at most. My mother and I lived with her from when I was 1 until my mom got remarried and we moved out when I was in the 4th grade. My mom worked 2nd shift and I was raised by my grandmother. My remationship with her is more than the usual grandparents share with their grandchildren.
I am in Iraq and within weeks of being relived. The rule states that if she was my primary caregiver I can go home to be with her. And indeed she was. But since my mom lived in the house she was not considered my primary caregiver. My father was not in the picture and most of my childhood memories are with her. So in short due to the face that my mom was still in the picture I cannot go home to say goodbye. This is the rule that I fail to understand. I know that other people would say hell ya I am close to my grandmother just to get the hell out of here and that is why this rule stands. But there is no way to take into account any special situation as this. That is what I find horrible and with todays families being less and less traditional this couls happen to alot of people and I do not want that to happen.
Now here is the salt in the wound. My commander was still going to send me home early anyways. But I am one of 2 qualified on the M240B at the moment until the rest of the relif gets here so he can't send me. I am not even supposed to be a gunner I am just qualified because I am a trainer for it at home.
So if you pray I would like your prayers to beat the clock and get home in time.
Thanks for reading.
My grandmother has become very ill and she has a DNR order. The doctor said in the red cross message that this may be the last time to see her and that it will be a week or two at most. My mother and I lived with her from when I was 1 until my mom got remarried and we moved out when I was in the 4th grade. My mom worked 2nd shift and I was raised by my grandmother. My remationship with her is more than the usual grandparents share with their grandchildren.
I am in Iraq and within weeks of being relived. The rule states that if she was my primary caregiver I can go home to be with her. And indeed she was. But since my mom lived in the house she was not considered my primary caregiver. My father was not in the picture and most of my childhood memories are with her. So in short due to the face that my mom was still in the picture I cannot go home to say goodbye. This is the rule that I fail to understand. I know that other people would say hell ya I am close to my grandmother just to get the hell out of here and that is why this rule stands. But there is no way to take into account any special situation as this. That is what I find horrible and with todays families being less and less traditional this couls happen to alot of people and I do not want that to happen.
Now here is the salt in the wound. My commander was still going to send me home early anyways. But I am one of 2 qualified on the M240B at the moment until the rest of the relif gets here so he can't send me. I am not even supposed to be a gunner I am just qualified because I am a trainer for it at home.
So if you pray I would like your prayers to beat the clock and get home in time.
Thanks for reading.
