I’m not ok with going soft on these kids, if that’s what you’re saying. There’s a difference between letting the kid know that he done fucked up and making a fool of yourself and him once the lesson is delivered.
But I see your point and don’t necessarily disagree. He’s lucky to have a mom that cares that much. I just don’t see the point in getting in his face and acting like a fool, but we all have different ways of parenting.
I can’t imagine how he’s going to respond if he’s spoken to that way his entire life. If that’s what’s going on in public, I would imagine he faces a lot worse behind closed doors.
Speaking to a kid like that for years destroys his self worth and teaches him that losing control is how you respond to difficult situations.
My wife works at an elementary school and she sees how these kids are treated. Kids who are dying for a bit of affection from a mother who is too preoccupied with her hair, nails, TikTok, and figuring out where she’s going to get the money to pay her Mercedes payment and the kids are treated like an inconvenience.
It’s heartbreaking and these kids have meltdowns when they learn that there is a holiday and they won’t be able to come to school and eat a good meal and get away from the nonstop volatility that they experience at home.
Getting in this kid’s face and acting like you’re in a street fight and calling him nibba over and over is not a quality interaction, no matter how you want to spin it.
But we don’t know the whole story and it may be just what he needs. But I doubt it.
